How to Heal Wounded, Lonely, Cold, or Broken Hearts #love #divinelove #heart #sacredheart #shakti

Sometimes, we feel lonely, broken-hearted, or just cold and lacking love in our lives. Sometimes, we have no clue just how shut down our heart chakra may be.  If our heart chakra is open and flowing with love, our chests will feel peaceful, warm, and full of love.  How often do we feel like that?

If you answered “all the time” or “most of the time,” that is wonderful!  Many of us, however, grew up in less than warm, open-heart-chakra families, even if they did love us in very practical ways.  Some of us grew up in abusive families.  Some of us have experienced unloving or abusive partners as adults.  Some of us have had lonely lives. Some of us never learned to love ourselves fully, for whatever reason, from this lifetime, or from a previous life.

I’d like to share with you a spiritual approach which can help us heal our own broken, wounded, or sad, cold, or lonely hearts.

Recently, I learned from a new spiritual friend and colleague that Shakti represents the desires of our hearts.  (I think he would say that She is the desires of our hearts, but I will only share a sense of what I learned as it made sense to me.) Shakti also represents our one true longing, which is Her one true longing, which is union with Shiva.

For those of us with Western or middle-Eastern religious backgrounds, this is the same as saying the Masculine aspect of God is transcendent beyond the universe, while the Feminine aspect of God is immanent within the universe as omnipresent Spirit, and we, as individual souls, come from God and seek to re-unite our souls with God.

In the meantime, Shakti, represents that part of God sent out to create the Universe, including us.  Shakti is desire, as in desire for reunification, or Oneness with God.  We are all part of God, so our desires for one another essentially convey our desire for part of God.  These desires are the desires of our hearts.

What this friend and spiritual colleague taught me, then, is that we need to honor the desires of our hearts, and indeed be aware of all desires as pointing to our greater desire for Oneness with God.  When we deny our desires, whether for a partner, or anything else, we shut down, or partially close-off our hearts.  To open our hearts, we need to accept our desires, and seek to transmute them into our real desire for oneness with God.

That does not mean suppressing our desires, or denying them either.  When we love ourselves, we seek the purest and most loving forms of fulfilling our desires, meaning, ways to fulfill them that also honor God in others.  Getting in touch with our deepest heartfelt desires and honoring those desires can help heal our own hearts.

So often, we think that we need someone else to love us and to heal us.  But the Divine is ever in us, around us, and accessible to us, primarily through our chakras, as energy, life force, Spirit, love, joy, and peace.  What will truly heal us is reaching out to access this unconditional love of God directly, and loving ourselves just as we are, desires and all.

We especially need to avoid shaming ourselves for our desires.  Desires reflect a deeper need for connection, Oneness with God, nature, and each other, and for wholeness and well-being.  There is no need to judge our desires, though we may need to transmute them to keep them loving for ourselves and others.

As Buddha taught me (blog entry on the fundamental nature of reality), the true and fundamental nature of all being, or the ground of being is:  All Is Well.  When we realize that our true desire is for the state of being in which All Is Well, we can connect our desires in this lifetime with our desires for God.  When we realize that the All is Well is clearly not just about us, but about everyone, then we can spread the well-being and Oneness to all life.

For instance, this spiritual colleague and I had been walking in the heat, and we stopped to purchase a couple of bottles of water (in glass bottles, which creates greater well-being for our health, the environment, and all the animals on land, air, and in the water!) because we felt hot and thirsty.  We needed to drink water to restore the state of being in our bodies in which “All Is Well.”

Yet, if another thirsty person walked up, about to drop from heat exhaustion, our desire for the “All Is Well” would lead us to share some of our water with this other person, so they wouldn’t die of heat stroke.  This is a true desire of our heart: to share resources and save lives. (I wonder what would happen to our economy if we lived by that true desire!)  When we share water with someone thirsty, we create the All Is Well state of being for them.  We extend the All Is Well.

Our own hearts desire things for us that seek to create this well-being of All Is Well inside ourselves and in our lives.  So, rather than shutting down or denying or not listening to the desires of our hearts, we need to open our hearts to hear, see, feel, and love what and whom we love.  If we love peanut butter, wonderful!  If we love playing basketball, wonderful!  If we love knitting or crocheting, wonderful.

Next, if we need to do so, we transmute a desire which won’t bring a state of well-being for ourselves or others.  As one example, if we love eating, that’s great, but how can we transmute that desire so that it aligns with the Highest Good in which All Is Well?  Generally, by eating healthy foods in healthy amounts!

So far, for healing our hearts, we have: Step 1) honor our desires as they are, without judgement; Step 2) recognize that all desires reflect a truer desire for Oneness with the State of Being in which All Is Well (which is also God’s nature); Step 3) transmute our desires to create well-being for ourselves and others here-and-now.

Another step can be so helpful in healing our own hearts.  When we feel we need more love, rather than looking to someone else to love us, we simply need to recognize that, in our deepest heart-of-hearts, we already love ourselves bountifully, or we would not be desiring more love.  If we didn’t love ourselves, we would have no such desire.  So, in desiring love, we realize that we do love ourselves, and in honoring our desire for love, we begin to allow our own love to flow to ourselves, and then we simply choose to love ourselves enough to heal ourselves!

Love Is.  Love is part of us, because Love is part of the essence of the well-being of our Source.  Love is part of the All Is Well, and so are we.  We just need to love ourselves and our desire for the All Is Well enough to re-create the All Is Well for ourselves and as many others as we are able.  Then we will be surrounded with the All Is Well.

And, my friends, when we can all do this, all-day, everyday, we will be creating Heaven on Earth!

Love and Light,

Carol “Anandi”

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I am a healer, life coach, author, and spiritual teacher. While I am ordained in the Christian tradition, I have also studied Eastern spiritual disciplines and practices, including Raja Yoga Meditation; Intuitive Coaching; Reiki; Falun Gong; and other forms of energy healing for both people and animals. I am available for distance healing and spiritual coaching via phone, Skype, WhatsApp, or Facetime; please email me at: to schedule a session. My goal is to assist you in connecting with your Higher Self to find fulfillment, peace, health, and happiness in life. I typically work with people for about six weeks, and then they either take classes with me and advance more, or simply go their happy way. While I cannot guarantee results, many clients find that in a few short weeks, more is accomplished than could be with years of traditional talk therapy. Born on the equator in the Democratic Republic of the Congo, I grew up moving back-and-forth between Africa and the United States my whole childhood and youth. We lived in three different countries in Africa, and three different states in the USA. I now live in Maryland, close to Washington, DC. I was widowed at the age of 28 when my 34-year-old husband died suddenly of a cerebral aneurysm that hemorrhaged, leaving me with an infant and a toddler. This crisis led me to believe that God loves us even when "bad" things happen, and also led me to pursue spirituality and become a minister. In 1996, thanks to "Autobiography of a Yogi" by Paramhansa Yogananda, and a meditation class called Raja Yoga, I started on an Eastern spiritual path, a journey which included becoming a healer and a mystic. On Thursday, May 27, 2010, I experienced what I call an Enlightenment Vision, in which I ascended and was blessed by Ascended Masters of many faiths: Master Lao Tzu, Mother Mary, Mary Magdalene, Jesus Christ, Lord Buddha, Paramahansa Yogananda, High Priest Melchizedek, Lady Kwan Yin, Master Usui, and then by the Seven Archangels of the Seven Rays. After this vision, the teachings in Higher Consciousness began. Apparently, my crown chakra was opened, and direct contact with the Ascended Masters has been possible ever since. My message to everyone is: this is possible for you to achieve as well, although getting there is not necessarily quick or easy. With a Master of Divinity degree from Vanderbilt University Divinity School, a Master of Public Health degree from the University of Texas Health Center at Houston, and a Bachelor of Science degree in psychology from Texas Christian University, I perceive a unity in my readings in Eastern religions and in Biblical studies. As a result, I believe the original message of Jesus Christ was and is a call to Self-Realization, which may also be called following The Way (a term used in the book of Acts by very early "Christians," although they did not call themselves "Christians;" they called themselves Followers of the Way. The Way, or the Tao consists of the practice of peace and love in every moment, honoring the Divine Presence within ourselves as well as within others. The Way of early Christianity was a spiritual practice which similarly focused not on the material world, but on the practice of Divine Presence within the earthly realm. When we practice The Way, or The Tao, we become one with Divine Peace, Love, and even bliss. When we attain this, we experience the "Kingdom of God" or Reign of God, within ourselves, Nirvana or possibly Samadhi. Achieving this Way within each of ourselves is the only way we will be able to usher in the Reign of Divine presence among us all here on earth. The ultimate goal of The Way, and of Self-Realization, is the attainment of unity with the Divine Consciousness, or Buddha-Consciousness or Christ-Consciousness, within, and beyond our normal mortal mind. This Unity-Consciousness is eternal, but begins in the here and now. May it be so.
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