Realization & Mindfulness

Realization & Mindfulness

This morning, I had a realization that, I believe, is a crucial one on the path of Self-Realization.  I was remembering some of the most hurtful things that highly evolved people have said to me.  (By hurtful, I mean using “you” language to label me.  For instance, one person might hurtfully say to another, “You are such a stupid, selfish, brat.”  That would be a hurtful remark because the person is negatively labeling the person, not just the behavior.)  As I did so, a brand new thought came into my mind.

I realized that, whenever anyone has said something hurtful about their experience of who I supposedly am in their view, inside myself there has always been another perspective.  Inside me, there has always been an objecting thought, something along the lines of, “but no, I really am kind and loving and considerate, why can’t you see it?”

Then I realized that deep inside, there really is a core self that is caring, and loving, and happy.  Next, I realized that this is the Self inside myself, and inside each of ourselves.  I realized we all have this part of us that cares about how we feel, and that desires to be happy.  This Self naturally rejoices in life and seeks happiness in life.

When we have ego crop up because we are feeling unhappy, we may try some dysfunctional ways to try to get back to being happy, including feeling depressed if that feels safe and comfortable, like a long-standing bad habit.  Even someone who is trying to commit suicide is only trying to make themselves stop suffering.  To try to stop suffering, there must be some part of them that cares whether or not they are happy!

Deep inside us is the God-Self, or Spirit, or Soul, which does care about ourselves and others, and which truly longs to rejoice and be happy.  We may have lost awareness of that part of ourselves as we have traveled through life, but as children, we naturally cared about ourselves and others, unless we experienced severe early trauma or neglect.

That part of ourselves that I will call the Core Self, is aware of what is happening at all times, and deeply cares.  If the ego mind has taken over control of our mental awareness, then we tend to react out of fear, defensiveness, and a need for control, rather than out of that deeper awareness of caring and being connected.

Once we become aware that our inner Self is good, kind, loving, peaceful, happy and grateful, then we realize that there is nothing wrong with this true part of ourselves, and so there is nothing to defend when someone else verbally “attacks” us.

We each have this aspect of God in us:

the One who cares, who loves, who rejoices.

Then, as I took my morning walk, I realized that all animals, even insects, have this desire to avoid pain and feel happy.  So, this is an aspect of the Divine Self even in animals – that there is caring, love, and rejoicing, as a happy dog wagging its tail makes it so obvious!

If this aspect of the Divine – caring, loving, rejoicing – is in animals, how can we justify taking their life any more than we can justify taking the life of a human?  Jainism and some traditions of Buddhism would say that we cannot.  Even the Biblical commandment “Thou shalt not kill” does not specify whom we can kill and whom we cannot.

What a reason to rejoice, when we realize that God really IS inside us all along!  That still small voice that wants us to feel happy, and believes we are good and deserving of being treated well no matter what – this is the very existence of the Self within our ‘self.’

This Core Self inside us is also the Observer Self – the one who observes the thoughts and feelings but can actually choose to redirect them.

Finally, if we practice mindfulness throughout our day, we are able more easily to tune into our Core Self.  Through mindfulness we can more easily engage the Observer who makes choices, who cares, yet who remains peaceful, trusting, and who can access the wisdom needed at any time.

Welcome to discovering and remaining mindful of your Core Self – that One or Observer who is God in you.  When you find that Self, you are another step closer to realizing the One Self.

I believe this is why Buddha had his followers focus inwards instead of beyond themselves to find God.  When we can let go of the busy ego-mind, we can discover this Observer, who, at one and the same time seems like no self at all, and who also exhibits deep compassion for oneself and others.

When we find this Core Self, we find the seed of Buddha or Christ within.  In fact, if we allow the ego mind to go, and live from this Core Self, as Christian scriptures affirm, we have died to ‘self’ and risen to new life in Christ. From this place, we may expand our consciousness outward to the Self that is the All.

May we all find, and realize, this inner Self, and eventually become One with the All.


Carol “Anandi”


About selfrealizationtherapy

I am a healer, life coach, author, and spiritual teacher. While I am ordained in the Christian tradition, I have also studied Eastern spiritual disciplines and practices, including Raja Yoga Meditation; Intuitive Coaching; Reiki; Falun Gong; and other forms of energy healing for both people and animals. I am available for distance healing and spiritual coaching via phone, Skype, WhatsApp, or Facetime; please email me at: to schedule a session. My goal is to assist you in connecting with your Higher Self to find fulfillment, peace, health, and happiness in life. I typically work with people for about six weeks, and then they either take classes with me and advance more, or simply go their happy way. While I cannot guarantee results, many clients find that in a few short weeks, more is accomplished than could be with years of traditional talk therapy. Born on the equator in the Democratic Republic of the Congo, I grew up moving back-and-forth between Africa and the United States my whole childhood and youth. We lived in three different countries in Africa, and three different states in the USA. I now live in Maryland, close to Washington, DC. I was widowed at the age of 28 when my 34-year-old husband died suddenly of a cerebral aneurysm that hemorrhaged, leaving me with an infant and a toddler. This crisis led me to believe that God loves us even when "bad" things happen, and also led me to pursue spirituality and become a minister. In 1996, thanks to "Autobiography of a Yogi" by Paramhansa Yogananda, and a meditation class called Raja Yoga, I started on an Eastern spiritual path, a journey which included becoming a healer and a mystic. On Thursday, May 27, 2010, I experienced what I call an Enlightenment Vision, in which I ascended and was blessed by Ascended Masters of many faiths: Master Lao Tzu, Mother Mary, Mary Magdalene, Jesus Christ, Lord Buddha, Paramahansa Yogananda, High Priest Melchizedek, Lady Kwan Yin, Master Usui, and then by the Seven Archangels of the Seven Rays. After this vision, the teachings in Higher Consciousness began. Apparently, my crown chakra was opened, and direct contact with the Ascended Masters has been possible ever since. My message to everyone is: this is possible for you to achieve as well, although getting there is not necessarily quick or easy. With a Master of Divinity degree from Vanderbilt University Divinity School, a Master of Public Health degree from the University of Texas Health Center at Houston, and a Bachelor of Science degree in psychology from Texas Christian University, I perceive a unity in my readings in Eastern religions and in Biblical studies. As a result, I believe the original message of Jesus Christ was and is a call to Self-Realization, which may also be called following The Way (a term used in the book of Acts by very early "Christians," although they did not call themselves "Christians;" they called themselves Followers of the Way. The Way, or the Tao consists of the practice of peace and love in every moment, honoring the Divine Presence within ourselves as well as within others. The Way of early Christianity was a spiritual practice which similarly focused not on the material world, but on the practice of Divine Presence within the earthly realm. When we practice The Way, or The Tao, we become one with Divine Peace, Love, and even bliss. When we attain this, we experience the "Kingdom of God" or Reign of God, within ourselves, Nirvana or possibly Samadhi. Achieving this Way within each of ourselves is the only way we will be able to usher in the Reign of Divine presence among us all here on earth. The ultimate goal of The Way, and of Self-Realization, is the attainment of unity with the Divine Consciousness, or Buddha-Consciousness or Christ-Consciousness, within, and beyond our normal mortal mind. This Unity-Consciousness is eternal, but begins in the here and now. May it be so.
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