There are stages on this path to Self-Realization, and right now, I am going through a stage of purifying and releasing emotional attachment (or so I was just told!). This generally entails dealing with relationships in which we have high emotional attachment to outcomes. In other words, this stage can feel really tough, emotionally speaking, because we get to learn non-attachment to significant life events, accomplishments, and relationships – not just non-attachment to mere objects, pleasures, and possessions.
I had the privilege and the honor of getting to assist one of my energy healing clients with this process recently, as well. She called for a last-minute appointment in the evening due to work-related stressful relationship issues. (Can you relate to working in a dysfunctional work environment, where gossip can ruin people’s working relationships, and possibly even their careers?) She requested that I do an intuitive energy reading on her, which is something I usually only do to a small degree. I could already see, though, that she was glowing with more love and confidence in her spirituality than she did about six months ago. This glow was from and around her face and head. So, I said ‘yes.’
What happened then was an amazing experience of being given perception of what she is going through, her sense of self in her throat chakra (well, I usually sense that for most people), but then awareness of how she had reacted to things as a little girl, awareness of what she was being called on to do, and how she needed to respond to those around her. It was truly a whole spiritual life reading, not just a reading of her energy levels or chakra flow (which is what normally comes along with my giving someone energy healing).
Part of what was so amazing was that I clearly could sense that she was being asked to live at a Christ-like level with people, focused entirely on what they need, rather than on what she needs or desires, even in her career. I realize that’s a lot to ask of anyone, but I shared with her how I have also gone through that stage of self-sacrifice in career, and that I am currently going through a stage of being asked to be there for someone without receiving what I would like to receive from this person.
Please understand that, as part of healthy psychology, I normally recommend that people ask for what they need and desire in personal relationships, and that I support people speaking up in their work environments for what they need there as well, when appropriate. This is another level of living – a higher consciousness situation that goes beyond the stage of asking for psychologically healthy relationships in our lives.
The vision that came through me for her was that she was being asked, metaphorically, to walk on burning coals with a jug of water which she was to use to put out the fires under the feet of her co-workers. The lesson in this for her is multi-faceted: non-attachment to ego self in terms of knowing that all of her accomplishments are made possible by the Divine Presence within her; non-attachment to career outcomes; non-attachment to how others treat one (with respect or not); and empathy and compassion for others, even when they are not treating her well, because it just means that they are in deep emotional pain.
I know these lessons from my own life experience, and all I can say is that Buddha and Christ paved the way on all of these issues by setting the example themselves. Think about all that Buddha gave up, having been a prince, in order to bring compassion into the lives of others. Think about how Christ let others disrespect him and mistreat him, and yet showed compassion and forgiveness for them all.
Each of us, on our way to Self-Realization, may well be asked to live these sorts of situations, unless we have already done so in a previous lifetime.
Today, I paused for a moment of meditation, and am grateful to say that I felt Divine connection. As I was lifting up a question something along the lines of “why are we asked to do such difficult things?” the answer that I received from the Divine Presence was this:
“I ask nothing of you for myself. I ask for your (plural – meaning for all human beings) sake. I need nothing. It is my creation that needs redemption, and so I ask you to be my Presence, and without asking anything of anyone, bring redemption to my offspring. How else will they know my love, unless you love them for me? How else will they receive, without having to give in equal exchange, unless you give to them unconditionally? How else will they heal and become whole, unless you forgive them? How else will they know to find me, unless they see me in you? Give, without asking to receive, for I will provide for you. Do, without asking for it to be done for you, for I will do and be with and for you. You have no true needs that will remain unmet, for you are with me. Choose my Presence within you, and all your needs will be fulfilled. Focus then, your life each day, on the needs of others, for that is the Divine Tao, the Divine Purpose, the Divine Path, the Way of Divine Presence upon the earth. So be it.”
As I said to my client, when I had complained to God about what I had been wanting (and not getting) from someone that same day, through my crown chakra I was invited to rise up to join the Ascended Masters, who were saying, “You know what, it does not matter. What you want so badly, does not even matter. Come up here – we’re having a party!”
On the higher level of consciousness, there is always a sense of completeness and unity with the Divine, which is redemption. When we can raise the vibration of our thoughts and intentions, we redeem our whole selves by living as our Higher Selves. Redemption and Self-Realization are essentially one and the same thing. No one else can do it for us, but they can pave the way, and lead the way, as both Christ and Buddha (and others) have done.
May you find your redemption in the higher realms, where, apparently, they will throw you a party! Down here, we are asked to bring that very party to others – not necessarily a pleasure party, but a party of incredible love and acceptance and celebration of each and every person on our path. And yes, a little (or a lot) of pleasure just might be involved, even though it’s not the point. Life is a celebration of redemption – union with the Divine in and through all situations, in all times and places. So, let’s celebrate, because Shiva and Shakti are present within us, and they are lovingly dancing through life with us!
Love and Light,