Joy, Love, and Peace

We can find inspiration anywhere.   Sometimes I find inspiration by watching movies on Netflix.   Recently, I watched “Pappadapolous & Sons,” which is a movie about a man’s sense of self-discovery through loss, success, failure, and family.  In the end, he comes to define success very differently than he did while achieving material success.

The main character’s conclusion was: “Success is the joy you feel.”

What a perfect definition of success!  I don’t believe I have ever heard a more perfect spiritual definition of success.

Joy is so tied in with love and peace, that to achieve true joy (not just happiness), we have to be filled with a sense of peace in our lives, and we have to be flowing with love for those around us.  I believe that the fulfillment of any of these three, love, peace, and joy, entails at least a partial fulfillment of each of the other two.

What do you need to do to reach greater joy in your life?

To achieve greater love, we need to recognize that love is not just a feeling, it is also a choice, and a commitment.  Love isn’t fulfilled when it is just a fleeting feeling.

We can commit ourselves to love.  Can we also commit ourselves to joy and peace?

The only way I know to achieve a commitment to joy and peace is through the practice of non-attachment, which also can help us in our commitment to love others.

When we maintain an attitude of non-attachment, we place love, and joy, and peace above any event, thing, or expectation of others.

Non-attachment and understanding go hand-in-hand.

A friend recently remarked that I never, or at least rarely, express anger.  I found this remark interesting, because I have often felt frustrated and hurt by this friend’s behavior.  However, I am also aware that I have constantly chosen to let go of anger, and hurt, recognizing that what hurts is not just the person’s behavior, but my own thoughts about their behavior.

So, if I feel upset, I know that I only have to look at what I am thinking, because I can change my thinking, and stop feeling upset.

How do you do that?  During my Progressive Counselling training at the Self-Realization Meditation Healing Centre, I learned that instead of judging people’s behavior, we need to seek to understand why they behaved as they did.  We can only understand someone else’s behavior through the eyes of empathy.

In other words, instead of just feeling upset, thinking that someone did something on purpose to be hurtful, or that they just don’t care, etc., we need to step back, simply observe what they said or did, notice how we feel, notice what we are thinking about what they said or did, and then, ask for Higher help understanding why they did what they did.

When we are at the point that we can intuitively receive help understanding why people did things that seem hurtful to us, then it is easier to understand that the hurtfulness had reasons interior to the person, and only secondarily to what we have said or done.

As always, we do need to accept responsibility for our own actions and words, but we do not need to take ownership of how the other person feels about our actions and words.  We need to care about how they feel, but not own their feelings.  It is enough work to own our own feelings honestly and responsibly.

Please note that I also find myself asking for different behavioral choices from this friend, and that the loving way to interact with people does include kindly requesting what we need and what we would like for our own happiness.  We still need to maintain non-attachment to their choices, however, which can get tricky, because sometimes we need to protect ourselves from truly hurtful choices if the person does not stop making them.

When we can consistently relate to others with non-attachment to the hurtfulness of their choices, understanding that they have their own reasons for their choices, we can more easily remain in this state of love, peace, and joy.  When we remain in this state of love, peace, and joy, we are better able to share this wondrous way of being with others.

May you find your way to joy, love, and peace, and may you experience that success forever.

Love and Light,

CarolCarol 2013


About selfrealizationtherapy

I am a healer, life coach, author, and spiritual teacher. While I am ordained in the Christian tradition, I have also studied Eastern spiritual disciplines and practices, including Raja Yoga Meditation; Intuitive Coaching; Reiki; Falun Gong; and other forms of energy healing for both people and animals. I am available for distance healing and spiritual coaching via phone, Skype, WhatsApp, or Facetime; please email me at: to schedule a session. My goal is to assist you in connecting with your Higher Self to find fulfillment, peace, health, and happiness in life. I typically work with people for about six weeks, and then they either take classes with me and advance more, or simply go their happy way. While I cannot guarantee results, many clients find that in a few short weeks, more is accomplished than could be with years of traditional talk therapy. Born on the equator in the Democratic Republic of the Congo, I grew up moving back-and-forth between Africa and the United States my whole childhood and youth. We lived in three different countries in Africa, and three different states in the USA. I now live in Maryland, close to Washington, DC. I was widowed at the age of 28 when my 34-year-old husband died suddenly of a cerebral aneurysm that hemorrhaged, leaving me with an infant and a toddler. This crisis led me to believe that God loves us even when "bad" things happen, and also led me to pursue spirituality and become a minister. In 1996, thanks to "Autobiography of a Yogi" by Paramhansa Yogananda, and a meditation class called Raja Yoga, I started on an Eastern spiritual path, a journey which included becoming a healer and a mystic. On Thursday, May 27, 2010, I experienced what I call an Enlightenment Vision, in which I ascended and was blessed by Ascended Masters of many faiths: Master Lao Tzu, Mother Mary, Mary Magdalene, Jesus Christ, Lord Buddha, Paramahansa Yogananda, High Priest Melchizedek, Lady Kwan Yin, Master Usui, and then by the Seven Archangels of the Seven Rays. After this vision, the teachings in Higher Consciousness began. Apparently, my crown chakra was opened, and direct contact with the Ascended Masters has been possible ever since. My message to everyone is: this is possible for you to achieve as well, although getting there is not necessarily quick or easy. With a Master of Divinity degree from Vanderbilt University Divinity School, a Master of Public Health degree from the University of Texas Health Center at Houston, and a Bachelor of Science degree in psychology from Texas Christian University, I perceive a unity in my readings in Eastern religions and in Biblical studies. As a result, I believe the original message of Jesus Christ was and is a call to Self-Realization, which may also be called following The Way (a term used in the book of Acts by very early "Christians," although they did not call themselves "Christians;" they called themselves Followers of the Way. The Way, or the Tao consists of the practice of peace and love in every moment, honoring the Divine Presence within ourselves as well as within others. The Way of early Christianity was a spiritual practice which similarly focused not on the material world, but on the practice of Divine Presence within the earthly realm. When we practice The Way, or The Tao, we become one with Divine Peace, Love, and even bliss. When we attain this, we experience the "Kingdom of God" or Reign of God, within ourselves, Nirvana or possibly Samadhi. Achieving this Way within each of ourselves is the only way we will be able to usher in the Reign of Divine presence among us all here on earth. The ultimate goal of The Way, and of Self-Realization, is the attainment of unity with the Divine Consciousness, or Buddha-Consciousness or Christ-Consciousness, within, and beyond our normal mortal mind. This Unity-Consciousness is eternal, but begins in the here and now. May it be so.
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