Lessons in Mastery Cont’d: Non-Attachment in Difficult Circumstances

Choosing non-attachment to external forms is a necessity on the path to Self-Realization.  Non-attachment can seem only slightly difficult or even easy when it comes to things like refraining from eating another slice of pizza, or putting work before leisure, or exercising a few times a week.  However, when it comes to stressful situations, challenges in important relationships, or crises, non-attachment can often just go out the window, because, as human beings, we really cherish certain outcomes and ways of getting to those outcomes.

Whether it is wanting a loved one to treat us a certain way, feeling exhausted but having too much work pressing on us on top of family responsibilities, or facing health crises, some situations border on feeling “too difficult” for us at times.  Or we truly long for something (money, perhaps) or someone (a romantic partner) and feel afraid that things won’t go “our way”.

When we feel fear or anger, anxiety or extreme emotional hurt, this is a signal that we are holding onto something rather than practicing non-attachment.  When we recognize that we are feeling upset, then the first thing we need to do is to identify what it is that we are seeking to hold onto, such as a certain person treating us a certain way, or getting paid a certain amount for our work, or being honored for work we did.

Once we have identified what we’re holding onto (e.g. “I wish he’d call me and ask me out”), then we can ask the Divine for helping letting go.  Letting go, of course, isn’t easy, but asking for divine help makes it easier.

For Christmas, I actually asked my family members to get me artwork and statues of Buddha, who has, in his Ascended Master form, directly helped me with spiritual issues before, especially non-attachment.  This past Sunday, after Christmas, I was indeed struggling with something deeply emotional and I felt a million miles away from peace.  So, I picked up the medicine Buddha sculpture that I had been given a few days before, and asked Buddha to help me with non-attachment. I asked, “how do I deal with this?”

The reply I got was first:  “let go of desire.”  Of course, I’ve heard that before, but this was a case in which desire was extremely hard for me to let go.  So, I asked for help letting go of desire, and Buddha answered that I just needed to let Godde know that I love him/her more than the desire that I was holding onto.

So, I began the practice of letting Godde know what I desire, but also then telling Godde that I desire Godde more than the desire I was holding onto.  This works!  I am so grateful to Buddha for teaching this lesson this way, because we get to express our desires to Godde without shame or guilt or blame, and we get to remember to put Godde first.

Obviously, non-attachment in difficult situations can seem very challenging, so I hope this technique will help you.  The interesting fact is that, in this ongoing situation in which I know I need to practice non-attachment, when I do practice it, the things that I desire have worked out so much better than I feared.

Finally, fear is a form of attachment, and if we are feeling fear, we need to become aware of what we are afraid of happening, and then let Godde know what we would desire to have happen.  Then, we can practice non-attachment by telling Godde that we love Godde more than anything or anyone.  God is listening and watching to see if we mean it.  Fortunately, God is not watching from some cold distance, but rather Godde is loving us and walking through the situation with us.

One of the wonderful gifts of this approach is that, if we tell Godde several times a day that we love Godde and that we desire Godde more than anything else, it not only changes us for the better, it changes our lives for the better.

May you be richly blessed with non-attachment through the pure energy of devotion, and my your devotion purify and transform you!



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About selfrealizationtherapy

I am a healer, life coach, author, and spiritual teacher. While I am ordained in the Christian tradition, I have also studied Eastern spiritual disciplines and practices, including Raja Yoga Meditation; Intuitive Coaching; Reiki; Falun Gong; and other forms of energy healing for both people and animals. I am available for distance healing and spiritual coaching via phone, Skype, WhatsApp, or Facetime; please email me at: carol.dodson.richardson@gmail.com to schedule a session. My goal is to assist you in connecting with your Higher Self to find fulfillment, peace, health, and happiness in life. I typically work with people for about six weeks, and then they either take classes with me and advance more, or simply go their happy way. While I cannot guarantee results, many clients find that in a few short weeks, more is accomplished than could be with years of traditional talk therapy. Born on the equator in the Democratic Republic of the Congo, I grew up moving back-and-forth between Africa and the United States my whole childhood and youth. We lived in three different countries in Africa, and three different states in the USA. I now live in Maryland, close to Washington, DC. I was widowed at the age of 28 when my 34-year-old husband died suddenly of a cerebral aneurysm that hemorrhaged, leaving me with an infant and a toddler. This crisis led me to believe that God loves us even when "bad" things happen, and also led me to pursue spirituality and become a minister. In 1996, thanks to "Autobiography of a Yogi" by Paramhansa Yogananda, and a meditation class called Raja Yoga, I started on an Eastern spiritual path, a journey which included becoming a healer and a mystic. On Thursday, May 27, 2010, I experienced what I call an Enlightenment Vision, in which I ascended and was blessed by Ascended Masters of many faiths: Master Lao Tzu, Mother Mary, Mary Magdalene, Jesus Christ, Lord Buddha, Paramahansa Yogananda, High Priest Melchizedek, Lady Kwan Yin, Master Usui, and then by the Seven Archangels of the Seven Rays. After this vision, the teachings in Higher Consciousness began. Apparently, my crown chakra was opened, and direct contact with the Ascended Masters has been possible ever since. My message to everyone is: this is possible for you to achieve as well, although getting there is not necessarily quick or easy. With a Master of Divinity degree from Vanderbilt University Divinity School, a Master of Public Health degree from the University of Texas Health Center at Houston, and a Bachelor of Science degree in psychology from Texas Christian University, I perceive a unity in my readings in Eastern religions and in Biblical studies. As a result, I believe the original message of Jesus Christ was and is a call to Self-Realization, which may also be called following The Way (a term used in the book of Acts by very early "Christians," although they did not call themselves "Christians;" they called themselves Followers of the Way. The Way, or the Tao consists of the practice of peace and love in every moment, honoring the Divine Presence within ourselves as well as within others. The Way of early Christianity was a spiritual practice which similarly focused not on the material world, but on the practice of Divine Presence within the earthly realm. When we practice The Way, or The Tao, we become one with Divine Peace, Love, and even bliss. When we attain this, we experience the "Kingdom of God" or Reign of God, within ourselves, Nirvana or possibly Samadhi. Achieving this Way within each of ourselves is the only way we will be able to usher in the Reign of Divine presence among us all here on earth. The ultimate goal of The Way, and of Self-Realization, is the attainment of unity with the Divine Consciousness, or Buddha-Consciousness or Christ-Consciousness, within, and beyond our normal mortal mind. This Unity-Consciousness is eternal, but begins in the here and now. May it be so.
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2 Responses to Lessons in Mastery Cont’d: Non-Attachment in Difficult Circumstances

  1. Gede Prama says:

    Thank you very much for following the blog, I really look forward to reading your posts and happy new year 2014. Gede Prama 🙂


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